Something I’ve learned over the last year. There’s a big difference between when someone talks about speaking “Their Truth” and “The Truth”. You know what they say, there are always 3 sides to every story, mine, yours and the truth. The truth is, I don’t trust my own judgment nearly often enough. I give people chances far too many times and I can empathize with almost anyone in any situation. I know what it’s like to be without so I will always give of myself freely whenever I can/however I can without asking for anything in return. This doesn’t always end well but I always say it’s worth it because even if I do end up getting taken advantage of occasionally, not everyone is like that and I would still rather help those in need. As time has gone on, I’ve learned to set healthier boundaries. This is challenging but important. I never take my own perception as the default in a situation, even in one I’m involved in. If there’s a dispute with a friend, I will often consult other mutual friends around me as witnesses to try and get a less biased view on the situation before I make any decisions. It always hurts to make difficult choices, but at least I know that I have done everything I can and that I’m making the most fair choice possible when I have to put up boundaries or walls between myself and people I once called friends. I’m learning how to stop internalizing what other people do and blaming myself for every failing. Other people are not my responsibility and while I’m allowed to care I need to remember that.